Hitting me But Has Promised To Change, Should I Go Ahead And Marry Him?

My fiance and I are based in the UK and have been dating for 2 years. We are getting married in June this year and all plans are set. I however got the greatest shock of my life on Feb 14th.

He had came to my flat a day before and a male friend of mine called me at night while I was sleeping and he saw the call. I woke up in morning only to be met with accusations and name-calling. He even threatened to call my people to cancel the wedding and left my flat in anger.




I called my mum to report his behaviour. My parents subsequently advised me to go and apologize to him in order to bring peace. I found out when I got to his place that my mum had even called him to apologize on my behalf.

As soon as I got there, he started the name-calling again, calling me names like ashawo, cheap, whore and the likes, and before I knew it, this very calm man I have known for the past two years turned into a different person. He was behaving like a completely mad person.

He locked the door and started beating me and pulling my hair. He took out a knife and threatened to kill me if I didn’t confess that I’m sleeping with the guy who called me on Saturday night. Some of my braids came off, my dress was completely torn and I had bruises all over. He ceased my phone so I couldn’t call in the police and held me hostage for close to an hour.

I cried the whole time, pleading with him to free me. Just around that time, my mum started calling me and he picked the call and told her we just had a small fight and I was crying. My mum asked to speak to me and I told her everything that  happened.

Surprisingly, my mum told me these things happen in marriages and I shouldn’t let other people know our problems. My mum said lots of women go through this once in a while and I should stop crying and not do anything that will bring about the cancellation of our wedding.

He also started crying too, pleading that he was very sorry and didn’t know what came over him. I then left and came to my place. He’s been calling and texting me since then but I’ve refused to respond. I am in total shock! I am also disappointed at my mum’s reaction to all of this. Honestly, I’m scared for my life because if I go ahead to marry him, it might continue and I have read about men killing their spouses in marriages.

He is not a violet person usually though and very remorseful about how he treated me. What should I do? Should I cancel the wedding or give him another chance. I need your advice. - See more at: