A cousin brother of mine is in a delicate situation and I needs your advice on how best to help him tackle the situation which is slowly turning ugly. He had problems in his marriage whc led to separation. I dont want to bother you with all the details but the major thing was that he mistakenly got their 22 year old housemaid pregnant and the girl was somehow related to the wife and while trying to abort codedly, the girl started bleeding heavily and somehow the wife found out and the rest was history. She left the house. My cousin begged and begged. I was even also begging on the side.
After a yr and six months of separation, the young man arranged some of our family members who were in the know and we went to seek for reconciliation but his wife shy away from it. She didnt even come to the village for the reconciliation meeting which was held in their country home. He tried to connect to his father inland as mam to man but the man neglected him too. we went home after the humiliation and few weeks later, we went back to meet with d wife's kinsmen. They collected 5 crates of beer and 2 bottles of schnapps before they even gave us audience..
They asked us to come back in a month time for reply because they said they need one month to broker peace. A month later, they called us on phone and told my cousin that there is nothing they can since her father ignored them. they advised my brother to be patient and keep begging but that was the last we were willing to take. This was way back in 2014 and its almost going to 2 years now. At this point he decided to seek for divorce so he can remarry. But the funny part of it is that the father in-law refused to refund him the dowry he paid on her head as tradition demands. They now resort to threatening him that he cant turn their daughter into second hand and dump her.
Ok we agree, then let the woman come back, they refused. Balance us our money, they refused. They went as far as petitioning the Anglican diocese so that no church will wed my cousin. They seem to have a spy because they somehow sent emissaries to the family of the girl my cousin wants to marry cautioning and threatening them not to accept the marriage. The young man has found love else whr and he wants to round up every tin bfor d year runs out. the old girl friend who he left to marry the woman has been around and has helped him heal from the heartbreak the separation has caused him so I guess, he feel back in love for her and wants to marry her and move on.
Please, lailans, this is a very delicate and serious issue and I need matured opinions. come and see a heavy threat from his former wife n her family. via sms and even letters from native doctors. I really know they want my cousin to remain as miserable as their daughter. Pls help me with opinions on wat step to take to assist in salvaging the situation cos serious threat to life and happiness is now involved - See more at: http://www.lailasblog.com/2016/04/how-do-i-recover-dowry-i-paid-on-her.html#sthash.ZN6X46Mt.dpuf
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